My life has always been happy, my world a beautiful place to live in. I
grew up with most of the good things surrounding me; loving, indulging parents who are almost never around but
lavish me with everything I want; an elder brother- four years older than I am-
who dotes on me like I’m 13 rather than 20; all the affection, attention and
comfort a girl could ask for.
I can’t help but say a mental ‘Thank God for my
life’ every time I see juvenile kids while driving along the streets of Lagos
or moments like right now as I watch Isha Sesay narrate the pitiable welfare of
children in war-torn and impoverished Mali, from the Splendor of my sitting
room in my father’s ‘near-mansion’ in the high-end Magodo area of Lagos.
“Damilola, your father and I want
to speak with you, come up to our sitting room please”, my mother’s voice
breaks into my reverie. I break my focus on the television screen to look up at
her. I smile as I see my father and her approaching me in equal strides. It
feels almost weird seeing them together as they are both usually tucked away in
separate locations of the world, and as I also know that my mother prefers to
stay in our other house in Lekki due to its proximity to her office in Victoria
Island. I would wonder how my mom was able to bear the distance if I didn’t
know she’s just as much of a workaholic as my father. The few times I see them
together though, I never fail to wonder how two very different people could
fall in love. My father, Chief Ayodele Durojaiye, has the typical features of a
Yoruba man; average height, stout body, sonorous voice and a brisk walk. The
Denim trousers and Nike tee he is wearing makes his bulging abdomen look like
it’s moving at it’s own pace towards me. His face is set in the same stony,
expressionless look he puts on when it’s time to discuss business, a look which
as I always remind him, portrays him as scary and unapproachable, a far cry
from the kind-hearted man I know as my father. I, however, inherited the more
appealing and very beautiful features of my mother. Mum to me, ‘Grace‘ to others, her appearance and carriage exudes
exactly what she is called. Tall, calm and lithe, with a rich dark tone to her
skin, she is often mistaken for my big sister rather than my mum. Born to influential
Igbo parents, she and her twin sister- my favorite aunt and guardian when my
parents are away- studied in England where she met my father while they were
both in college. They worked for some time after college, had my brother and
me, then came back to Nigeria to settle down and got married. My father has a
few companies of his own which are successful while my mom is the Director of
Public Affairs in a prestigious oil company. Some of the few things my parents
happen to have in common are their strong work ethics, adept love for business
and tenacious independence.
I put the remote control in my right hand down on the cushion and
followed them to their sitting room; as I sat on the couch opposite them, I
wondered why I had been summoned. It couldn’t be a car; they just got me the
new Honda Accord when I graduated from the university last month, maybe the
vacation I have been pestering them for? But that wouldn’t warrant a family
meeting, neither would my impending service year. I keep guessing what it could
be till finally, my dad speaks….
“Damilola, we have something
very important to tell you and we want you
to listen very attentively. For a
few years, your mother and I have…”
“Dele, please, let me”, my
mother says.
“Ok, she should understand you
better”, he replies.
“Sweetheart”, she looks
into my eyes and says to me, “what your father was
telling you is, for a few years,
we have not been as much of a couple as we
should be. For a while now,
we have come to the realization that our marriage
has run it’s course and we have somehow grown apart….”
“Uh, what do you mean
‘grown apart’? How?” I ask.
I find myself trying to figure out what was coming but I still couldn’t understand.
I find myself trying to figure out what was coming but I still couldn’t understand.
“…. I don’t know, dear. Maybe it
happened while we were at the peaks of our
careers, maybe it was not
being around each other much, but as of now, your
father and I have decided to get a
divorce”
As she says this, I glance at my father and
notice his expression doesn’t change, his eye doesn’t even twitch.
“Dad, is it true?”
He nods back at me, and in that moment I
think I see a look of regret flick over his face.
“But, why? How? What happened?
Did any of you cheat or do something
wrong? Can’t you just forgive
each other? Can’t you just forget it and move on?”, I ramble on and exclaim my
thoughts without thinking.
“No one did anything wrong,
baby. It’s just time and this is the only way to
move on”
At this moment, I feel numb, aware only of
the disbelief and rage building up in my mind. I stand up, excuse myself and
walk blindly to my room. I need time and space to think but my mind stays
blank. A fog just rose in my mind and is stuck there. I hear a knock at the
door and my mom peeps in.
“Baby, can I come in?”, she
asks.
“I’m sorry, mom. I kinda need
some time alone.
“Ok dear. I’m sorry”, she
says. I nod back at her as she closes the door.
Suddenly I start to feel like the room is
choking me and I just have to leave. I make up my mind to go away for a while,
till I feel comfortable enough to face my parents again, till the mindless fog
in me lifts up. As I pack the few things I need for a short getaway,
uncontrollable tears pour down my cheeks. I wipe them away, grab my car keys
and duffel bag and rush down the stairs to the garage, mindfully avoiding my
parents as I do so. As I drive out, I notice my mom calling out to me from the
verandah but I do not stop. I don’t think I can face her right now without
saying the wrong things.
While driving, I think of why my parents could have grown apart, what
happened to the bliss and happiness I always saw? Did I just make myself think
it was there so the ‘Big, Happy Family’ concept would seem applicable to ours
too? My family was certainly anything but big, maybe the ‘happy’ was a farce
too? The togetherness I thought I saw the few times I saw them together, was
that a farce too?
I desperately want to talk to someone, to
cry out and let someone convince me that everything would be alright. I
sub-consciously skim through the list of people I can talk to and as usual, my
brother, Damola, pops up first. The digital clock near the steering wheel says
6:40pm on Friday in Lagos; it will be about 12:40pm in New York where he is studying
for his MBA degree. I’m about to dial his number but remember I don’t know if
my parents have told him and it’s not in my place to do the honours. Next, I
think of Seyi and Richard; Seyi is my best friend of four years and trusted confidante;
we both studied Microbiology in Covenant university and graduated with First
Class Honours. Three days ago though, Seyi’s dad was admitted into the hospital
after a sudden Partial stroke attack; he has been stabilized now but I don’t
want to bother her with my family issues. Richard and I have been in a
relationship for about a year, also a graduate of CU and lives in Abuja. Things
have not been very smooth between us in the past week but that’s not my main
worry now. I dial his number and put my phone on speaker as I ease into the
traffic building up.
“Hello”, he answers.
“Hi babe”, I reply, not as
enthusiastic as my usual self.
“I’m so sorry I have not
called you all day, babe. Had to go pick my parents
up at the airport, I told you they were coming
in today. I’ve been so busy all day.”
“It’s alright. That’s not why
I’m calling you anyway”
“Hey, what happened to you?
You sound low.”
“Richard, my parents are
getting divorced. Like I don’t know what to do, I… I just
feel lost”, I keep one hand on the steering
wheel and wipe the fresh tears coming down my face with the other.
“Oh my God!” He exclaims,” I’m
so sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine how hard it
is for you”
“It’s crazy, I mean, did they
even stop to think of how it’s gonna affect me? They
are not even gonna try to make it work? They
gonna throw 18 years of marriage in
the bin like that?”
“Err, babe, I think they must
have thought that through before making their
decision. If they are not happy,
it might just be the best thing”
“There’s nothing good about a
divorce, Richard”
“I’m not saying there is,
Dami. But this is more about them than you. I’m sure they
are not happy about it either.
Just calm down, aii. Where are you?”
“I left the house, couldn’t
stand them. I’m on my way to my aunt’s. I’ll be there for
a few days”
“Alright, just go there, lay
low, think about things and try to calm down, aii?
“Yeah, I will. I’ll talk to
you later.”
“I’ll call you tonight. Take
care of yourself, ok?”
“Will do. Thank you.”
I hang up the call and for the first time
since my parents broke their news to me, I actually stop to imagine how they
must be feeling about losing almost 20 years of their lives…. The flicks of
regret on my father’s face, the sadness on my mother’s, the threat of tears as
she asked to come into my room…..
Ten minutes later, I drive through the gates of my aunt’s house, weighed
down and weary. As I pull up in front of the house, my aunt walks out with her
phone to her ear, mumble some words which sound like ‘she’s here… talk to you
later’ into it and hugs me the moment I step out of the car. Her embrace, which
has always somehow been able to alleviate my worries, was doing nothing for me
right now. We walk into the sitting room together and I was barely seated when
she said,
“That was your mom, she’s
really worried about you but didn’t want to call you, she
knows you wouldn’t pick up if she
did”
“It was just about 30 minutes
from Magodo to Ogba. Why’s she so worried?” I feign a stubborn, lackadaisical
attitude, then heard my aunt sigh heavily.
“Damilola!”, she sighed again,
“do you want something to drink?”, I shake my head in reply.
“You know, dear” she continues,
”Sometimes in life, we expect things to go our way
but life always has it’s own
plans. Most times, they are plans we never even gave
much thought to, but they
happen still.”
I absorb every word she says while staring
at the muted television; it reminds me of what Richard said to me over the
phone.
“But they could try to make it
work”, I reply.
“Your parents have been having
issues for years. The separate bedrooms, trips
that became even more frequent,
even being in separate houses when they were
around, it’s been a long time
coming. And they did try to make it work; they saw
marriage counselors, made time
out. While you were even away at
school last year, they tried to
live together for some months but it didn’t change much.”
“But, I still don’t get it,
they never fight. Yeah, they bicker sometimes but that happens
right?, even between you and
uncle Obi. I thought they loved each other.”
“Damilola, your parents don’t
hate each other. But what you see is mutual respect, not love”, She answers
calmly.
“If they’ve been having issues
for years, why did they wait till now to get a divorce?”, I ask the question
that has bothered me since she started to tell me about the parts of my
parents’ marriage I never saw.
“They delayed it because of
you. They didn’t know exactly how it would affect you,
you were 16 and fresh into the
university; you had enough to deal with. Now you are
old enough and you should
understand where they are coming from. They didn’t gladly
choose the lives they’ll have to
live from now on.”
“Me? Damola knows?”
“He’s known for a while.”, she
replies.
My ears ring as I stare at her in disbelief.
The same parents I blame for going on with their decisions had been trading
their happiness for mine for years. The weight of her words sink into my head,
I hug her again, muffle my thanks, pick up my bag and walk to the room I and my
cousin, Dora, share whenever we were both around. As I open the door and step
in, a feeling of nostalgia hit me; the coral walls, wide windows, large bed,
wardrobes, mirrors, plasma television, disc player, the door to the adjoining
bathroom; they all remind me of the countless times I had lived here, times my
parents were away trying to make a meaning of something they had believed in
once upon a time. I decide to shove all thoughts of my parents away, connect my
laptop to the speakers and tune down their volume so the somber music coming
from them is barely loud enough to fill the room. I send a message to Seyi asking her how her father’s health is and
telling her I miss her, I also send Richard a message to tell him I was at my
aunt’s and a bit calm. I’m about to switch my phone off when a message comes in
from Damola….
‘Hey kiddo. Mum told me what happened. I know how you feel, been there,
done that, you’ll
get over it. Mum needs you though, much more than you’ll ever know. Be
safe aii J’
‘Hey kiddo’... his trademark phrase that
never fails to make me smile, Damola will never stop calling me that… ‘mum
needs you though’… I ruminate on that as I switch my phone off, I am still
angry at my parents for something almost out of their control. Maybe I am being
too selfish, maybe I am acting spoilt, maybe I have a right to act the way I
am. I start to undress and sing along with John Legend as he crooned through
the speaker, ’…I pray for the world, it gets worse to me, wonder if you’re
listening...’,he was saying. His words remind me of all the prayers I have ever
said for my parents’ marriage and also something Seyi once said to me,’ God
always answers our prayers. Most times, it’s just not the answers we want’. I
soak myself in the tub and lie there till the water loses it’s warmth, return
to the room and lay on the bed, singing along to the melodies forming pictures
in my head, grateful that my aunt is kind enough to let me be in my solitude.
It’s dark and misty, I look around blindly till finally, my eyes adjust
to the shadows of the night around me. I lift my legs to walk forward but I bump
into a wall, my sense of direction is lost. I turn around to see a small crack
of light pouring out at the end of the adjacent wall afar off. I open the door
a little wider to reveal white walls marking out a large room with white
ceilings and a large bed covered in white sheets. The room looks familiar, the
dark wood-paneled floors feel so familiar to my bare feet. I instinctively look
to the other end of the room, beside the bed where a sobbing woman sat with her
back to me, at the mahogany desk occupied by a lamp, several books and framed
pictures. Her tears were falling on a picture of a couple on the wedding day. I
move closer to her to see that the couple in the picture are my parents. The
sobbing woman turns sharply to face me, like she just realized someone is in the room with
her, she turns out to be my mother. Only, she’s a far cry from what I know her
to be. The uncharacteristic graying, unkempt hair, sunken cheeks, dirty nails
and sullen eyes heavy with guilt and fear beckon to me as she says
“I’m sorry, Damilola, but I
need to be happy again. Please set me free.”
I’m confused by her words, how am I holding
her in bounds, I can see no chains.
“Please, set me free.
Please”, she wails.
Scared to death, I run out of the room into
the hungry darkness outside, panting….. panting, I open my eyes to another
quiet but less threatening darkness. The winds rush in through the windows, the
music is still playing. I must have been asleep for a few minutes; I didn’t
even know when I slipped into oblivion. Stomach howling, I stand up from the
bed, close the windows and turn on the lights, the clock on the wall says its
4:32am, I had been gone for nearly seven hours. Wow. I walk to the kitchen,
open the refrigerator n carry out a pack of juice and cookies. As I munch on
them, I reflect on how scary my dream had been. I think of my mother’s words
again, could my lack of forgiveness be the bondage she was talking about? ‘I
need to be happy’, it keeps ringing in my head. Maybe I am over-reacting. My
mom might not have been around all the time but she was always there when I
needed her, when I wanted her to be. I feel a little sad knowing I’m not paying
my dues now that it is my turn to. I throw the empty packs into the bin and
march back to my room, lay back in bed and settle in for a good movie, anything
to lighten my mood. Two hours later, after the movie ends, I put on my phone
and a call comes in from Richard almost immediately.
“Hey you”, I pick up with a
smile, “how was your night?”
“It was good. Yours?”
“Quite calm”, I remember my
dream but decide not to mention it, “Hey, let’s not talk
about my parents aii.”
“Babe, Seyi’s been trying to
reach you all night. She called me when she couldn’t get
through to you”
“Err, all night? Why?”
“Her father died this
morning. Sometime around 2am.”
If a stranger had poured ice-cold water on
me while I was asleep, the shock I feel would be nothing compared to what I
feel right now! I’m still caught up trying to understand how it could happen
when another call comes in, Seyi’s. I tell Richard I’ll call him later and
switch calls. Her sobs and the wails around her make her words almost
inaudible. Amidst it all, I can only do little to console her and tell her I’ll
leave for her house to be with her immediately. I clean myself up, tell my aunt
what happened and leave for Seyi’s house.
As I start my car, I realize that through everything happening around
me, I have forgotten to be grateful for the Gift of Life. Thanks to my
selfishness and stubbornness, I lost sight of the things that really count. I
put a swift change in my plans and head for home. I’m relieved to see my
parents’ cars in as I drive in. I see my father first, coming towards the door
as I walk in through it. I smile at him and tell him I’m sorry for the worries
I caused them, he smiles back in that understanding manner of his; a quick hug
and then, I make for my mother’s room. Just as in my dream, she’s seated at her
mahogany desk, staring at the pictures but not sobbing, she also lacks all the
raggedy features of the woman in my dreams. I stare with love and longing at
the beautiful woman who gave me life.
“I’m so sorry, mom. I’m here
for you. Always.” , I say, meaning every word.
She gives me a broad smile, stands up and
stretches her arms out to me like her twin had done yesterday.
“I’m sorry it’s not working”,
she says.
“It’s alright. As long as you
are happy”, I reply.
As I fall into her embrace, I feel all my
worries alleviate. The spell her sister had been unable to break finally goes
away. Finally, I find the one place that doesn’t feel strange, the one place
where I feel whole. Finally, I have come Home.
Wow... Tot twas too long a story to digest... But it got better with every line read... Nice1 rach
ReplyDeleteBeautiful piece! A bit on the lengthy side albeit. Riveting all the same. Once again, I cant help but marvel at your finely honed literary prowess. Well done dear!
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